I’m going through Joel Comiskey’s “Coach: Empower Others to Effectively Lead a Small Group” with our coaches and we’re on the fifth lesson – serve.
Focusing on servant-leadership, Comiskey writes about the importance of becoming a friend to your leader and encouraging them well. As he states, “Relational authority is the most important type of authority that you can wield.”
He reminds us that we need to make it clear to our leaders that our care for them is not dependent on their performance. While they (and we) are called to bear fruit, doing so is a process that takes time. Supporting them through that process is part of our job, but toward that end our foremost task is to be praying that the Holy Spirit builds the maturity in them that they need.
Comiskey also states that our effectiveness as coaches can be evaluated by whether our leaders’ needs are being met. And the best way to determine that? Ask them! He starts his coaching process by telling his leaders he’ll be asking for feedback so that he’s better able to serve them. Which then takes us back to lesson four — listen!