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Coach Lesson One: Receive

Posted on Thursday, February 27, 2014 in Coaching, Growth, Pontifications

Our small group coaches have begun working through Joel Comiskey’s training manual “Coach: Empower Others to Effectively Lead a Small Group,” which I highly recommend.

The first lesson focuses on our ability to receive.  As it’s been said, ministry flows out of being.  The effectiveness of a coach depends on his or her own relationship with Christ.  Comiskey reminds us that you can’t lead a person beyond the place where you are and that your character will eventually find you out.  No matter how talented or gifted you are, that’s no substitute for virtues like honesty, faithfulness and good judgment.

So what’s the key to receiving well?  Comiskey points to spending time with God each day, taking a day off each week, and prioritizing relationships with those closest to you.

Time with God

Henry Blackaby has said that what we need more than anything is unhurried time with God.  Spending time with Him each day enables us to know Him better, learn from His Word, be empowered by His Spirit, and grow accustomed to His voice.  It’s essential, but far too often we allow it to be crowded out by other activities or by liberal use of the snooze button (or maybe that’s just me).  We need to remember Who it is we are meeting with and make it a priority.

After being convicted by Blackaby’s “unhurried time” statement, I’ve tried increasing my often rushed morning quiet time to a full hour so I have plenty of time to read a devotional (by Blackaby, coincidentally), read my Bible (a friend and I pick a new book to focus on each month), journal, pray, and spend time silently waiting on God.  Rarely do I actually spend a full hour (that darn snooze button) and it fails to happen altogether far more often than it should, but the key is to be moving in the right direction.

A Day Off

God didn’t design us to work 7 days a week.  That’s just the way it is.  If we do so, we’ll get out of balance and burn out.

Several years ago Heather and I read “The Rest of God” by Mark Buchanan (which I also highly recommend) and began being much more intentional about setting aside a day each week where we refrain from “work” and only do activities that recharge us.  I’m an introvert and she’s an extrovert, so it may not always look the same for us, but we’ve both found it extremely helpful.  I’m able to be much more productive during the week when I know that I have a day off approaching.  And implementing Sabbath gave me time to add back into my life activities (like cooking and reading) that bring me joy but had gotten squeezed out by busyness.  More joy is always a good thing.

Close Relationships

We all need close, intimate relationships where we can know and be known.  We grow in our relationship with God as we are able to share our lives – the good, the bad, and the ugly – with our spouse and close friends.  If you don’t prioritize your family life and those closest to you, you won’t have much to offer those you are coaching.

Heather and I always have room for improvement, but we have established many ways to ensure we remain close and connected, including date nights every other week, monthly goals/calendar/budget breakfasts, and an annual prayer retreat.  Keeping our relationship on solid footing enables us to more effectively minister to others.

So how are you doing in terms of receiving?  Do you have a daily quiet time, a weekly Sabbath, and are you cultivating your relationship with family and close friends?

What is it you need to do?  Don’t just ponder it – go do it.

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